What is offbeat compassion?

When I told friends, family and Twitter followers I would be starting a blog, they wondered if my anecdotes about people in Act 3 Scene 3 of their lives would be comforting or inspiring. They wondered  (and either hoped or feared) whether I, a hospice chaplain, had a religious agenda.  Hospice after all is a heavy-duty subject. Chaplains after all are, well, chaplains. Despite this, I have foregone any such goal. There are plenty of other books and blogs that already perform that service. Rather, my purpose in all of my writing is to bring readers  close-at-hand to places they are ambivalent about approaching, yet respect their need for space. Rather than perform the distasteful task of selling you a message, I feel my task is to let you see for yourself what hospice patients think about, value, believe, and avoid.

My attitude towards the hospice patients and their families is similar. I am not there to promote anything, though my presence may be of comfort. As a quiet nonjudgmental presence, they have full leeway as to what they want out of my visits, whether it be a listening ear, song, prayer, touch, casual chatter, or even simply just sitting silently with them. So one of my definitions of “offbeat compassion” is making room for persons who call upon us for help and letting them freely sort out for themselves how we can be there for them.

In the coming months, I will blog about anecdotes about the dying and with grievers, or  tell you about my experiences with such groups as a threshold choir (they sing to the dying), my responses to others writing about similar topics to mine, give book reviews, and provide excerpts from my hospice memoir. As this evolves, I look forward to amplifying comments you make and answering questions you may have. I plan to ask you challenging questions too. Who knows, I may give a pop quiz.

Since this is my maiden post, above all I want to thank all of you for venturing with me into this sometimes soothing, sometimes strange, sometimes curious, and sometimes funny ride.

15 thoughts on “What is offbeat compassion?

  1. Christian Kirkpatrick says:

    My seat belt is securely fastened. Let’s go!


  2. Lisa Steinberg says:

    Very intriguing thoughts . Can’t wait to hear more!


  3. Cathy says:

    I’m looking forward to this. And I wanted to tell you about art by Deidre Scherer that I saw recently at the San Jose Museum of Quilts and Textiles. Her work there is called “The Last Year”, and I’m sure the subject will be familiar to you. http://www.dscherer.com/TheLastYear.shtml


  4. Best of luck on this new venture! Looking forward to hearing your experiences in this rarely discussed area of our lives.


  5. Anne Jenkins says:

    Congratulations and good luck.


  6. Your enthusiasm gives me a boost. Thanks!


  7. Mary Martha Thiel says:

    Is your book available for purchase? I am a CPE Supervisor in a Jewish setting and would love to make such a resource available to my students. Thanks.


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